When it comes to romantic love, you always want to spend time with people that make the butterflies in your belly come alive. When you spend time with loved ones, you get even happier and the more time you spend with them, the happier you are.
The more time you spend apart from them, the more you crave being near them. But what do you do if they don’t feel the same way you do and end up abandoning you for long periods of time?
During the early stages of your relationship, he will spout words about how much he misses you and wants to be with you and while it may come easier during this time, it will eventually wane and you will find that his attentions will start to dry up.
It can be quite tiring to have to string your man along every time and deal with the baggage that comes with feeling unwanted. If he makes you feel insecure and unwanted, it might be time to reevaluate the relationship, but not before you try these tips to make him miss you and commit.
The most effective way to make sure that he misses you is by giving him some space. But that is not the only way to ensure that he misses you and commits. There are several tactics that you can apply to your relationship to ensure that he misses you enough that he returns to professing his affections daily.
Here Are Our Top 15 Tips To Make Him Miss You & Commit!
Use these tips below to grab his attention after a while and refresh your relationship so that he begins to miss you and wants to commit to spending more time with you.
No matter who it may be, whether it is a husband you have grown apart from or a boyfriend that you have started growing apart from, these tips will help you grab his attention again and return his level of attention to how it used to be before the distance.
1. Stop Initiating Conversations With Him!
This can be hard to do since all you want to do when you like someone is to speak to them all the time. But if you are going to make him miss you enough to commit to you, then you need to make some serious changes in how you interact with him.
If you spend all your time talking to him on the phone or always trying to text him, it might be down to slow down a lot. The fact that you miss him and want to talk to him all the time does not mean that he feels the same way.
Take several steps back and allow him to miss you too. Stop initiating conversations with him and allow him to do the chasing from now on. If you are always available to him, then there is no way he will miss you because he knows you will always be there when he wants you to be.
As time passes, he will even start taking you for granted. So, stop all communication with him today and make him start wondering why. He will miss you and want to reach out to you more.
If he stops communicating with you when you do this, he probably wasn’t that interested in the first place, so you have done yourself a favour.
2. Make Him Wait Before You Return His Texts And Calls!
If you are interested in a man, then you will always want to respond to his texts and calls immediately after he sends them. If you really want him to miss you, then you should not do this.
Answering calls immediately and replying his text messages right after he sends them tells him that you are always available whenever he calls.
This will not work to your advantage as men love the chase. Make things hard for him a little. Make him call a few times before you answer it. Delay responses to his text messages for a few hours before you answer them.
This lets him know that you are not at his beck and call, you are always busy, and this will earn you more respect in his eyes. He will also miss you and try to make himself a permanent fixture in your life, as much as the other things that matter to you.
3. Intentionally Leave Things Behind!
Have you ever found something spontaneous while cleaning your home and this took you back to sometime in the past or to a time spent with someone else? Well, you can use this to your advantage.
If you find that your man is always absent-minded, then you can try some tactics to make him remember you no matter what he is doing.
When you visit him, leave some items over at his house or in his car. It can be one of your earrings or a bracelet. When he finds it, the thought of you will cross his mind and he will definitely reach out to you and think about you more.
Do not make the mistake of leaving overly intimate things like a toothbrush or underwear at this house as this can cause him to panic. Instead, think of small, cute things that will keep you on his mind.
4. Don’t Always Be Available!
If you are reaching out to someone and you know that they will almost immediately respond to your message then the moment is not as precious as it can be.
If you find that you are always waiting by the phone for him to call or text you, then it is time to look for other things that can occupy your time.
Don’t make yourself easily accessible to you or there will be nothing to miss about you. He will get bored and gradually cease communication. Instead, invest your time in other areas of your life.
Chase your dreams, focus on your career, hang out with your friends, and have as much fun as possible. If he sees how much fun you are having in your life, then he will miss your company and will want to reach out to you more.
Focus on yourself first, not on him, and he will naturally gravitate to you because he will see how much value lies in you. Put your phone down and focus on your life.
5. Change Your Scent To A Memorable One!
Switch out your scent for a more memorable one. This is one of the most significant things you can do to make him miss you all the time. Certain scents can transport people to different places and different times in their lives.
What does your current scent or perfume smell like? Are you even using perfume? This is something that you need to look into. Invest in a wonderful scent that reminds him of you every time he smells it.
To go the extra mile, get a perfume that smells like his favourite scent. He will not be able to get enough of you when you are together and when you are apart, he will remember you every time he smells that scent.
The more he remembers you, the more he wants to reach out, and the softer his heart grows towards you. He will develop tender feelings towards you that will make him want to commit that much faster.
6. Change Your Look!
It is easier to remember a woman in a memorable dress than a regular looking woman in jean trousers and a plain top with her hair falling all over the place. If you find that you look so ordinary that you can disappear into a crowd of people, then it is time to change your look.
Men are visual creatures are mostly attracted to what they see. Every time you meet him, ensure that you look your best. Wear your favourite outfit and put effort into how you look. If you know the particular quirks that he likes, you can incorporate them into your outfit.
For example, if you find out that he likes red lipstick, then that will be a nice touch to add to your outfit. He will not be able to get the colour out of his mind.
The same way women hate shabby-looking men is how men hate this in women. If you fail to dress up for him, then he will think that you are not interested in him and will not invest too much effort into your relationship.
7. Use Social Media Wisely!
You must learn to use social media to your own advantage. If he has access to see what you share on your social media accounts, then you can use this to your advantage.
Go out with friends and family and share photos from these outings on social media. Share the most fun parts of your life on social media to make it look like you’re having fun without him and you don’t necessarily need him in your life.
Be sure that you don’t go overboard with this so he doesn’t think that you spend all your time on social media. This can also pass a wrong message that you spend all your time hanging out and combing through social media. Find a balance between sharing these moments and spending time away from social media.
8. Compliment Him!
Men love compliments as it tends to boost their ego. If he has a beautiful smile, then let him know. If he cooks better than anyone else, then this is information you should share with him. Tease him lightly as you do so and be extra friendly with him.
When you’re not together, he will remember some of your compliments and this will make him miss your company. He might be in the middle of cooking and remember how you complimented his cooking a few weeks ago.
The plan is to stay on his mind long enough to make him miss you and want to reach out to you often. Don’t lie or go overboard though. He will eventually find out and will not appreciate your dishonesty.
9. Hang Out With Other Guys!
Show him that you have other options apart from him and you will not be waiting by the phone waiting for him to call you or reach out to you. Jealousy is a powerful tool to use against a man.
If you are going to a party where you know he will be, then show up with a handsome man by your side. Subtly stoke the flames of jealousy in him during your introductions and ensure that you keep your eye on him throughout the night.
Chances are high that he will return home and think about seeing you with another guy. He will miss you and want to reach out.
It is important not to overdo it though. While you’re hanging out with this other guy to show him you have options, ensure that you don’t end up pushing the guy you want away. Don’t make him think that you are unavailable or he will back away very quickly.
10. End Conversations First!
He will contact you from time to time, asking to hang out or calling and texting you. However, you must ensure that you end the conversation first. Make sure that you are the one who ends the call first or sends the good night text.
The goal is to string him along and keep him wanting more. If you make yourself too available, then his interest will wane quickly. You must keep stoking the fire in him so that he cannot get you out of his mind.
This can be really hard to do, though. When you’re talking to the man you like, you want to keep talking to them so you can learn more about them. However, too much too fast can make subsequent conversations boring.
11. Add A Little Bit Of Mystery To Your Relationship!
There is a lot to be said about being completely upfront, but if you want him to miss you, then this is not the path to take. Keep some secrets to yourself and keep him guessing if you want to remain on his mind.
He will keep thinking about the answers to the questions you refused to answer. Guys like a little mystery in their women so you can milk this when interacting with the man you like.
Don’t share everything about your life in one sitting. Give him cryptic answers and refuse outright to answer some of his questions.
12. Don’t add unnecessary pressure to the relationship!
If there is anything guys hate, then it is pressure. Don’t ever put pressure on him to commit to you. Doing this is more likely to make him run the other way as he may think of you as desperate.
Have fun and take things one day at a time. Wait for him to figure out his feelings and commit to you while using these tips of course.
13. Use Reverse Psychology!
Let him know that you are interested in him, but you don’t want any commitment. Of course, this is a lie, but he does not know that. Make him think that you don’t want to commit, you just want to be with him.
The more he realizes that you don’t actually want a commitment, the more relaxed he will be. He will feel like he can spend time with you without any pressure.
Slowly, he will feel more comfortable with you until he is the one who starts to pressure you to commit to the relationship.
14. Don’t Use Sex To Attract Him!
One of the biggest mistakes you can make is to use sex to attract him. It simply won’t work. Healthy relationships require a physical as well as an emotional connection to work.
Instead, work on doing things that will bring you both closer to each other before committing to a physical relationship. It will make the moment all the more special.
15. Enjoy Your Life!
The final and most important thing is to just enjoy your life. Chase the things that make you happy because your life should not revolve around a man.
Pursue the career that you love and spend time with people that you care about and who care about you. Living your life to the fullest makes you attractive to any man.
He will want to be a part of the positivity in your life and will keep thinking of you no matter what, especially when he sees that you are enjoying your life. Live your life to the fullest and just trust the process.
Hopefully, you now have some tips on how to make a man miss you and commit, closing the distance between you two. All you need to do is to apply these tips and watch as he becomes exactly the type of man that you want him to be.
One thing to be careful about is to ensure that you are not putting all your energy towards moulding him into the man you want him to be. Focus on your life while working towards other goals and watch as he commits to you and starts to invest heavily in your relationship.
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Summary!
- Stop Initiating Conversations With Him
- Make Him Wait Before You Return His Texts And Calls
- Intentionally Leave Things Behind
- Don’t Always Be Available
- Change Your Scent To A Memorable One
- Change Your Look
- Use Social Media Wisely
- Compliment Him
- Hang Out With Other Guys
- End Conversations First
- Add A Little Bit Of Mystery To Your Relationship
- Don’t add unnecessary pressure to the relationship
- Use Reverse Psychology
- Don’t Use Sex To Attract Him
- Enjoy Your Life…